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Mary Pyle's avatar

Thank you for sharing this story about you father. I can relate because my Dad was the exact opposite of my Mom. I really couldn’t stand him, but my Mom asked me to look after him the day before she died. Even though she filed for divorce 3 times. He would go into the VA hospital for manic depression. My Mom always ended up staying with his sorry ass. She knew there was no way in hell my sister would do anything to help him after she was gone. My brother had mental health issues and he wasn’t a fan of my father either. My Dad’s brother who lived a few blocks away said, he didn’t deserve to have Kathleen (my Mom) as his wife. To say my father was wildly unpopular with my Mom’s friends and relatives would be true. I ended up helping care for him when he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease. It was in Aug 1994 -Jan 2002 when he died. I called my sister to tell her he died. She said something about him being an asshole and how she didn’t want him buried anywhere near our Mom. His current wife donated his body to science. No funeral, no celebration of life because it turns out you need to be missed by someone to have those things. I did actually cry some when he died. I set up a few pictures of him on the table at my house in Berkeley and lit a candle. I have a few good memories of him and some abusive traumatic memories too. I hope his soul evolves and he learns to be a better person if there is such a thing as being reincarnated.

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Alison Bull's avatar

Thank you for this newsletter. The letters and your replies linger with me for quite some time after I’m done reading them. Through them I find new perspectives.

Dear Sugar means a lot to me. I know I’m not alone in that sentiment.

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