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Sarah Carlin Ames's avatar

Divorced after 31 years of marriage, i fell in with a man whose wife died after they were together almost 40 years. Neither of us had kissed another human besides our spouses since the 80s. The first time he reached his hand under my shirt and felt my tummy flab, I said something self-deprecating. “Nothing I haven’t felt before,” he said. We have gone on to wring more pleasure out of our saggy, aging, scarred bodies than either of us could have ever imagined. He tells me I’m voluptuous — and, twenty pounds heavier than my tall skinny man — I believe him. We are incredibly lucky. And I wish the same for you!

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Jessica H's avatar

Trim, fit, 65….in my Pilates gear and vertical, the world is my oyster. Lean forward 40 degrees however and my skin looks like a fiercely windswept sub Saharan desert. At an 80 degree angle….planks and what was once a satisfying position between the sheets…I find my once sunny disposition tanks into dark nihilism. Your words are the reality check we all need. Thank you and to those who have written expressing their gratitude and solidarity. I bow to you all, at a 30 degree angle.

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